Does SIZE really Count?

Recall

Digging into the archives of memory I recall the many and varied penis sizes I came across, as I wrestled with the elusiveness of love and rode the waves of lust. The drink fuelled romps and the occasional laid back smoky haze. Any romantic interlude, more often than not, was shattered by being reducing into gales of laughter. I was not of course laughing at the size of the current male, nor at his performance, it was more at how ludicrous the whole scene appeared to me through the bubbles of laughter bursting out of me.

Because circumcision was the flavour of the month back then, I do know that most lovers had a helmet. As for size well that was varied indeed.

Rumours

It was rumoured that small men would indeed have a small penis – not necessarily true, as I recall one lover who was a little fellow much shorter than me and he was extremely well endowed.

Big nose, big cock? Yes, that one rings true. That must mean all Arabs are well endowed. The Mediterranean hunk? Has technique, size and a few quirky surprises. You can forget the penchant for anal intercourse. I never could get my head around that or my body to respond. Maybe it was his size that kept flooding my feelings and vision??

The Small

There was a time when a hapless chap was indeed forgotten when God was giving out penises as he had one the size of a child’s little finger. I wonder who that was more frustrating for him or me. What he lacked ‘down there’ was certainly not made up for in technique. Our brief relationship was quite disastrous.

The G-Spotter

How’s the cute one whose penis was bent in the middle. I would recognise it anywhere…. Nice length with a noticeable bend in the middle. Knowing what I know now about the G-spot he would have been a natural with a kink like that.

The Large

Wait for it…. What about the lead guitarist who thought he was drop dead gorgeous? Hung like a donkey and so full of himself. He thought women would have an immediate orgasm just at the sight of his penis. I don’t think he ever got it… that most women thought, how the hell will that fit????? Do they do penis reductions???

Back then, being up to speed with how to rate the length of a penis was based on things such as checking out the length of the male’s middle finger to wrist or checking the size of the feet!! This of course may be true for some but really was rumour filled rather than fact filled.

Eureka!

My experiences included a Swiss French mix! Do they make an art out of lovemaking or what? Sensuousness and intimacy walking on legs, that is for sure. This is where I can categorically give you the answer to the question and say size did not count, that when it came to the art of love making they are in my view the best. Oh yes, the ways they can stroke, caress, kiss, nibble, lick, suck and squeeze are blissful to behold. It’s a pleasure just recalling the experience.

Then again, when I am with a women, there is no size involved at all. It is pure knowledge and understanding. We know what feels good, where and how the different depth of touch and intensity works, we are tuned in to each other in such a refined way that there is little need for words. Intuition works well.

A ‘male’ thing too

My many male friends have admitted that size is also a ‘man’ thing. There are those who feel well endowed and have an air of superiority in their persona. They will drop their daks after a surf and not bat an eyelid in embarrassment. Others feel insecure and have shared that they really would have loved some extra length. They have spoken of their longing to measure up. They question their adequacy.

I often wonder about the fact that since the testicles enlarge first (later followed by growth of the penis), that as adolescents, males possibly do not notice the testicles growing and worry that the penis is not changing and then think it is too small. This worry stays with some of them right into manhood.

It is not the size - lovemaking is an art

I have chosen to give this response. The art of love making is in the act itself, not the size of the penis. Erotic playfulness, passion, the aura of romance, giving and receiving pleasure, all these skills of prolonged, enjoyable lovemaking are learned. And, when your sexual partner is your chosen love, the connectedness and commitment, to shared pleasure invites creativity, exploration and communication.

As a woman, if I am speaking from our point of view, then great sex usually involves clitoral stimulation and subsequent orgasm, over riding vaginal penetration. For me, size is only important from the point of view of knowing what to do with it. After all, some of the smallest vibrators do a damn good job. So size has very little to do with satisfaction in my view. It comes back to technique would you agree? The way a male partner uses his whole body not just his penis. The way he uses his lips, his tongue, his hands, his torso, the way he arcs his back, holds you, twists you, cuddles you, the way he smells, his hands lifting and bending you, the way he breathes on you – it all adds to the sensation, to the intensity of orgasm.

Therein lies a great lover.

Tags: Men, Partner Sex, Relating, Erection