This is awesome - some people are so creative. Such a clever line up of the most cute (and edible) vulvas I have ever seen.  By the way, if you are into all things Vulvalicious, then check out these amazing Vulva cushions.  These days you can find some really exceptional products with a Vulva theme.  There are cards, puppets, t shirts, purses - will someone please come up with a pair of shoes - jewellery and much more.  Check out this vulva shop.

There is even the knitted Vulva.  Thanks to yours truly.. I have been dabbling, playing, and vulvalising my evenings with a few playful and colourful blends. 

The Vulva certainly has many women celebrating the wonderment of this part of the female anatomy. There are many places on our planet that shows the feminine side with vulva-like similarities. 

At Glastonbury, years ago, I was taken with a rock formation in a garden that was ultra feminine in its design.  

Here is the photo I took all those years ago, when at Chalice Well.  The Seven Bowls flow into the Vesica Pool.  It is really beautiful.

Also when approaching Glastonbury from the southeast and the direction of Baltonsborough and Butleigh, many people have noticed that the side-view of the Isle of Avalon presents the profile of a giant Goddess lying down lengthways before them across the moors.

There is much to be said about the feminine form and yet only today, I received an email seeking my support in speaking out about Uzbekistan's President  who is forcing doctors to cut out women's uteruses without their knowledge or consent to promote "birth control" across the country.

US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has already publicly condemned Karimov for human rights abuses and this most recent assault on women's rights - a topic she champions - only ups the stakes.

Unbelievable that this dictator would destroy in women he does not even know, the very feminine organs that gave him life!!!  Unbelievable!!

There is a website with 3D animation of the feminine organs including various dimensions of the vulva.... take a look, it is rather intriguing.  Suffice to say it would be a bonus for sex education in schools to include the unique perspective of these images for explaining anatomy to the pupils.

There are many types of orgasm that women experience and it is not simply the vaginal, clitoral, G-spot type.  Being in touch with emotions can stimulate all type of feel good feelings within the body. Responding to the sensation of a hug, breath in the ear, the smell of the person you are with, the sound of their voice and yes their touch,  all conjure up delight and orgasmic pleasure especially in the brain!  The biggest sex organ of all.

It is sad to read that so many women feel they are missing out on orgasm, because of what friends allude to, what Cosmopolitan and Cleo say, as well as expecting some huge explosion to take place that carries them away into the land of orgasmic pleasure, that lasts for hours.  Believe me, it is not like that.  Orgasm is different for every woman. Orgasm varies in depth because of the variables, mood, partner, where sex takes place, the time of the month (in relation to your menstrual cycle), and much more.

Some of us have experienced the raw, hot lust and rush as we have sex in the elevator, or on the bosses desk, or in the car park, or the back seat of the car. Yet, like I said, orgasm is different every time.

This (portion), reprint of an article written by Emma Gray, Associate Editor, Huffpost says it all. It was written from the perspective of vaginal orgasm as opposed to clitoral orgasm.

Even if vaginal orgasm is more available to women than previously thought, it doesn't work for everyone, or even most women. ABC News reported that up to 75 percent of women have trouble having orgasms from vaginal penetration alone, and that 10 to 15 percent have trouble having an orgasm at all, and yet many women still feel they're doing something wrong if they can't "achieve" the ecstasy that seems to come so easily to porn stars and models in perfume ads during intercourse. A simple Google search turns up hundreds of postings on Yahoo message boards from women who feel inadequate because they can't achieve a specific type of orgasm -- or any orgasm. These posts have titles like "I can't have a vaginal orgasm...and it's affecting my relationship?" "I have never had an orgasm through penetrative sex, am I normal?" and "Is it normal that I have never had an orgasm?!?"

Where do these strong beliefs come from and when do they start?  Why is it a young women feels she has to have 5 star experiences from the outset when having a sexual experience?  Who or what sets this benchmark? You know it is a given, from surveys done by Sassy Vibes in the past, that having sex/ or making love is different every time.  You can't set out with expectations.  It really is about the journey at hand, the destination means it is all over! Lights, bells and whistles for some, deep inner warmth and exquisite body rush for others, borderline sensation and being held close for others.  The latter does not mean anything is wrong, it is merely different (this time).

Good God whatever happened to the fun and play and pleasure of the sexual act.  Why is it a rush to the finish line with so much expectation?

Suffice to say, there is no doubt that the accessibility to unrealistic information, You Tube views, tabloid reading, various chat groups on the internet and the like, all contribute to illusory impressions of what orgasm is supposed to be like and feel like.  I wouldn't mind betting that there are those 'out there' who  believe they have never achieved orgasm and in fact have.  It is simply that they have never given themselves permission to allow, go into, unfold, into the experience as they are too busy trying to work out if this "is it" or not and miss the entire joy of the moment.

Give it up!  Go with the flow and enjoy!!

Finally Sassy Vibes has found a quality Master Glass blower.

Last weekend I attended the Sex & Consciousness Conference in Byron Bay.  I had a Sassy Vibe stand there and was thrilled to meet customers and newsletter readers, as well as make new connections. I met people from Switzerland, USA, NZ and a few others, one from Perth and one from Sydney that I knew before moving to the Northern Rivers region.

The weekend involved a varied program including aspects of tantric living, keys to true connection, healing and tantric adventures within marriage, conscious sensuality, understanding energetic orgasm, sacred sex, the effects of attraction to another, breath and energy orgasms and much, much more.  My connections with participants offered answers to their questions about intimate pleasure products,  why some men feel threatened by the vibrator, which are the best, explanation of materials they are made from, what different features on sex toys are for, plus much discussion on natural lubricants, sexual enhancers and buying from adult shops.

I also met a lovely young woman, Ella Rose, who had the most beautiful display of glass dildos. I have never had them available on the Sassy Vibe web site mainly because I could never vouch for the quality if purchasing through normal wholesale outlets.  I have always been of the belief and understanding that master glass blowers are more uncommon than common, and that individual handmade products, hardened in a kiln, and made with a synergy of sensual connection with the craft is a rather rare occurrence.

I now have on offer two beautiful dildos that come complete with a beautiful velvet and silk pouch that protects and cossets each masterpiece.

Glass pleasure objects heats very quickly to our body temperature. The hypoallergenic glass is nonporous and body safe, and when cared for properly, is designed to last a lifetime.  Even better, you can run the wand under warm water for a warm feeling or chill it under cold water for a cool sensation

 I have to say, I have never seen a glass selection before that has really caught my eye.  There was an amazing energy felt from each glass dildo on display, that seemed to weave artistic abandon, with intentional design, in the name of exquisite erotic pleasure.

These unique, individual, handcrafted glass dildos are simply sublime. Elegant, expertly made, and hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail, this luxurious glass dildo range will leave you breathless. Each hand-blown product is sleek, unique, and lovely.

They would also make a great pelvic floor strengthener as well.  The straighter version are heavy enough to provide a level of resistance which would speed up the tightening of your pelvic floor.  Check them out on the Glass Dildo page.

Felt a little like old times yesterday.   I spent a delightful World AIDS Day at Tweed Heads Hospital manning a table set up with lots of goodies to highlight and bring awareness to passers by that HIV and AIDS is still around.  Did you know that in NSW, there were more than 300 new cases of HIV diagnosed last year?  Right now there are more than 10,080 people living with HIV in NSW alone.

It has been 22 years since I began my work with the West Australian AIDS Council and things have certainly changed since those days.  With the advent of combination therapies, some dear friends from that time in my life, are still alive and well.  Whilst that is great news, the message still remains the same.  PRACTISE SAFE SEX ALWAYS!!!  World AIDS Day on the 1st December each year, serves as a reminder that Sexually Transmitted Infections are a reality and HIV is still affecting lives here in Australia, as well as overseas.  So condoms are a very practical and safe option to reduce the risks of infection and remain protected.

On that note, I want to share a story....

There is a real fun book available if you are in for a lazy weekend and happy to read about a 50 year old woman's sexual romps in the most desirable, romantic and idyllic getaways all over the globe.  The name of the book is Keep it in Yor Knickers

I have met the author in person, and was very cheeky and mentioned to her that after I devoured the book in 5 hours straight, I was left with a curious question... which was "Did you ever use condoms with those different sexual partners?"  her answer was "No". 

There are a few books out that highlight finding a new lease on life, where various aged women over 50 get it on with men and finally experience some extraordinary sex!!  Good on them.  May I say though, Safe Sex is not just for gay men and the young... it is for everyone, bi, gay, straight, young, old.  It is about taking measures of self responsibility and looking out for number one.  YOU!!!  Who really wants to play Russian Roulette with their life, by having fantastic sex, with various partners, before being dealt the the blow of being diagnosed with HIV or and STI?  Sure you could always be one of the lucky ones, but then again, how do you KNOW that?

So I guess it is a personal thing.  I can only strongly encourage you to play safe, I have seen first hand and worked for six years with aftermath of those left their personal safety out of the equation when it came to having unprotected sex.

I remember thinking yesterday, as I had different conversations with Sexual Health Officers, Administration staff, patients and clinical staff, that there was a common thread to each conversation and that was that it seems there is no longer the level of education and information being made available to those at risk in the community at large.  That is,  those attending secondary schools, as well as university.  The huge surge in oral STI's is an indicator that all is not as it should be, when it comes to the youth of today making fully informed decisions in experimenting or being involved in any type of sexual activity. 

I for one, can not see any immediate change, especially if schools are unable to give some real, authentic and practical information regarding the pros and cons of sexual activity, the use of condoms and HOW to implement the use of them especially for oral pleasure.  Being unable to advocate self pleasure and promoting that as a normal, natural and life enhancing undertaking.  Offering alternatives to young girls who are feeling the call of sexual awakening in promoting the use of appropriate intimate pleasure products, rather than the boy next door being the product of their pleasure. 

There will always be room for improvement in the sex education stakes that is for sure. Maybe my solutions are too radical, but they are definately a safer option!

 The most read blog on this site is my reaction to the documentary "The Perfect Vagina".  I have found the documentary still available to watch, so put your feet up and watch this..

I would like to add,this documentary is about cosmetic surgery, about not being happy with your lot, believing youself to be 'abnormal down there'.

Surgery may restore self-esteem and your labia may look like the magazines (which after airbrushing and photo shopping aren't real anyway), but you will have lost your uniqueness.

However, I do realise there are medical reasons for having this type of surgery which I fully support. Discomfort during intercourse, discomfort wearing clothing and with some sporting activities. Labioplasty is done for two reasons: medical reasons and aesthetic or beautification reasons.

At the end of the day your body is yours and no one elses.  Whilst I personally am not an advocate of "oh this looks like shit, cut it off and make me look better", at the end of the day it is only my opinion.

I would hasten to add though, should any reader be contemplating this type of surgery, do your research, question everything, get a second opinion and remember altering anything on the outside does not change who you are on the inside.

Take a look at this video which shows another side to this dilemma of not liking your vulva.  They love the result of what this guy does though.  Excellent viewing!