ANAL EROTICISM - The Forbidden Sex

The Anus. This is an often avoided or overlooked part of the body.  It is filled with nerve endings and like other parts of our sexual body will definitely respond to pleasing touch.  Should this lead to penetration , the slower and the more sensuous the better.  Lots of water based lubricant is required and often the combination of clitoral and anal stimulation (or penetration) will lead to delightful orgasm.  Do not use oil-based lubricants as they can coat the lining of the rectum causing infection. For many heterosexuals, anal eroticism is experimental and is often only part of the love making ritual rather than the main act.

Often the best way to get used to anal sexual pleasure is to do it with your self first.  With a well lubricated finger, or a slim anal vibrator, tense and release the pelvic floor muscle and feel what happens from within.  Stimulating the clitoris whilst simultaneously exploring and getting used to anal penetration during masturbation is a great way to feel more ease. 

Preparation for anal sex, especially for first timers usually revolves around the fear it may be messy.  An enema is the answer to that, although if condoms are in use then that may also help with putting ones mind at ease.  Also if there is a likelihood that vaginal entry will also be made, the use of a condom which can be removed before vaginal penetration reduces the likelihood of bacteria infections in the penis or vagina.

As far as positions go, some women like to be on top.  There is often more control and regulation of penetration. However if you have a trusting and gentle partner lie on your back, have a cushion under your hips for support.  This way gravity stops anal lubrication running into the vagina or urinary tract.
Slowly, slowly is the motto.  Start with a lubricated finger and a slim dildo.  Anal sex is a special kind of intimacy.  Gentle stimulation of the anal opening  and or analingus is deeply arousing.  A penis needs to be well lubricated and after being brushed back and forth teasingly across the anus inserted carefully, slowly and gently.  You see, anal sex is about relaxing, and the first few moments can be a challenge to get the sphincter muscle to relax and also to move through what comes up in the mind about the anus being taboo. Remember to breathe!  Breathe and relax, breathe and relax. For the female it is always better to be able to rhythmically squeeze and relax and ‘suck’ or ‘coax’the penis or vibrator into the anus at her own pace. This is much better than the other person pushing into an opening that is not ready to receive.  Let the body adjust.  Take your time.  The assertive partner needs to be aware and to listen.  Anal sex should not hurt, if it hurts …. pause and wait.

In closing, there are a lot of negative messages we receive from society and from our upbringing, right back to the days of toilet training. Chances are we have all experienced the shuddering, pleasuring , orgasmic sensations of a real good dump.  For each of us anal exploration will be different, there is no reason why it can not be a fulfilling part of your sex life. Physical sensations from anal play are uniquely different from anything else, so go ahead and give anal ecstasy a go.

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