Is Your Sex Life in a Rut?

Is your sex life in a rut? Do you want to try out something new, but are unsure of how to go about doing so? According to author Tracey Cox in her book, Secrets of A Supersexpert  you just have to start sending signals.
If you are boring or your life is boring and uninspiring, it is unlikely you would leap into bed with a wicked gleam in your eye and a cache of sex toys clutched in your hands isn't it?  You need to be excited by life and in turn be excited by your partner.  So move the mundane missionary to the kitchen bench, or the bathroom floor and become more ravishing. 

Did you know two in every thousand men can perform oral sex on themselves, that women have the highest libido during days 12-16 of their cycle, and having more sex pretty much guarantees less erection problems. Just a few things to bring up at your next dinner party...

Tracey also points out, that while being in a long-term relationship can lead to love, often times lust and attraction can fade over time. Which does not always fare well for your sex life.
Here are some ideas to help spice things up, direct from  the supersexpert herself.

1. Location, location, location. Try getting it on somewhere unusual, whether in the car, outside, or just on the bathroom floor. The most familiar touch in the world feels wicked when a hand sneaks under the tablecloth in a restaurant to snake its way up the thigh.

2. Introduce sex toys to break up your routine. For vibrators, choose a stronger one, as you can always place it on a lower setting. In addition, make sure to store your toys separately and keep them clean.
Remember, have fun. Today's sex toy market includes toys that pleasure both men and women via vibrating, licking, rotating, and more.

3. Masturbate in front of each other. Besides being an instant turn-on for him, it allows you both to see exactly what makes each other tick. Pay attention to how he masturbates to find out what he likes—stroke by stroke.

4. Try a threesome. Nevertheless, beware the emotional backfires of having a threesome, and always try to focus on your partner more than the other person.

5. Get over society's sexual norms and instead focus on what you and your partner enjoy. Compromise with each other. If he wants to watch porn together, but you find it appalling, try watching an adult film made specifically for women.

6. Remember communication is the glue, even after years of marriage. Expecting your partner to just know what you need or want is ludicrous, they can't just magically read your mind.

7.  Erotic moves? Try some light bondage, silk handcuffs, pleasure ties and  blindfolds.

8.  Try some oral sex of a different kind.  Phone your partner and have a "Would like it if I come home and....."

Oh, and no matter the situation, lube never hurts, in fact having the slip, slop and slide effect ensures comfort and helps with a marathon session.

And another thing. If you are on your own, there is no excuse.  Keep those eyes sparkling, the smile playing at the corner of your mouth and  ensure you give yourself the pleasure of at least three orgasms a week!