Masturbation issues

Who would have thought that jealousy over your man's masturbation practices would feel worse than actual infidelity?  A friend of mine is beside herself.  She has caught her husband not once but twice more than she cares to remember in the act!  What's worse is he has been looking at naked women on-line and going to chat rooms.

He is still home for dinner every night, sleeps in the marital bed, yet when his dalliances on line get him aroused AND he is caught, it is worse than if he had brought a lover into the bedroom for real.  What starts off as harmless sexual variety through masturbation and a bit of fantasy finishes up with the potential to wreak havoc on the marriage.

Why my friend is so sexually insecure in the first place is anyone's guess.  She has limiting views it seems on what her partner is allowed to do when taking a few private moments of erotic pleasure.  Having an orgasm with oneself can often be the most satisfying sex of all according to several other friends (male & female).

 As I said as kindly and as lovingly as I could "Maybe you should try masturbation more often and get to enjoy it and then you won't feel so controlling of what your husband can and can't do."  When all said and done we are talking about a screen with images on it.  Reminds me of the ruckus as a child when one of the farm hands had a whole lot of Playboys under his bed... he just was not caught in the act!