Time to Talk TABOO

Straight men and anal stimulation is one that does seem to be slowly being admitted to more freely. The stimulation of the prostate, during intercourse, oral sex and orgasm can help a man to experience a far stronger, more intense and longer lasting climax than ever before. And guess what? It doesn’t turn you gay! Ha Ha. Come on boys, do you really still think that way?

Bondage, in it’s stronger sense is another subject coming slowly out of the closet. Although still frowned upon by many missionary miseries, this section of the population is well catered for. From those just wanting to be enslaved, right through to the far more controversial S and M, which itself takes on many forms.  There are clubs, equipment and chat rooms galore. Nowadays a pair of fluffy handcuffs at home, and telling your friends you let your partner tie you to the bed is as harmless to your reputation as being an upstanding member of the community.

Swingers clubs! Well if you haven’t been yourself, I guarantee you know some one who has….even if you don’t know that they have.   The may range from meetings held in private homes, to regular parties with regular attendees, to some very elaborate, beautifully tasteful, well run establishments catering for couples who want to try it all out.

It may not be your thing…I believe monogamy is still quite popular….but many couples are expanding their horizons, fulfilling fantasies and many a time reactivating a tired and dull relationship. There are those that go along to merely watch, some to be watched as a couple and who never actually interact with others.  Obviously many go for the experience, the thrill, the excitement. Any which way it is being done, it is by fully consenting adults in what are usually, clean, hygienic and well catered for settings with no harm or effect on those who wish not to partake. Swing away!

Anal intercourse! Yes I said it. Why do those two words seem to make both men and women become rosy cheeked and instantly deny all interest?

 Men, we women know, will attempt the back door entry at any possible opportunity. What really bothers me though is the lack of manners here. To discuss and ask for permission would be nice. When you have only talked to a person on their front step, you don’t just pop round the back and enter via the rear, do you? You wait until they either suggest that this would be OK or you ask if next time you may. Another thing, if you are caught attempting entry round the back of a property, do you really think anyone will believe it when you say “sorry, mistake”. Not in a million years sonny Jim. We are not stupid, we know what you’re up to.

Women, on the other hand, generally just state point blank, that they do not do that, (when talking to their girlfriends anyway). Some of you must be doing it as plenty of these men have actually experienced it, manners or not! Why, I wonder is it considered so ‘dirty’? The tightness of the colon offers wonderful stimulation for both men and women, and it can be one of the most intimate couplings due to the care needed and time taken. Is it the mess? Invariably there is none, and with planning there are steps that can be taken to ensure no mess at all. Of course lubricant is a must in this situation and the one golden rule NEVER to be disobeyed is no double dipping! Any item, or body part entered into the anus should never be then entered into the vagina until cleaned or condom changed. This can cause all sorts of infections and complications.

Having said all this, I believe anal sex is still one of the most taboo subjects I have come across. Just remember….if you like doing it, what ever it is, there are 100’s more that do too, even if they are not sassy enough to admit to it.

Pepper Goldsmith