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Oracle - "Wise and mysterious advisor" - as defined by the Oxford Dictionary.
The SEX ORACLE contains contributions by Pepper Goldsmith who divulges her sassy sexploits on getting 'back out there' after 11 years of marriage. She has offered to willingly share the highs and lows of her new found freedom - well - that was a few years ago now. Pepper entertains us with updates of her hilarious brushes with potential suitors.
Monday 9th November, 2009
Over the last couple of years I have been sharing with readers my opinions, knowledge and stories of all things sexual. I have thoroughly enjoyed this time and hope that in some way I have helped or at least amused some of you out there. Whilst I will be continuing to work within both the journalism and adult industries, the time has come for me to depart as the sex oracle of sassyvibes.com.au and venture off into the big wide world. read Pepper's goodbye....
Monday 3rd August, 2009
I was recently asked a question as to another timing issue. ‘At what point of a relationship should sexual preferences and willingness to explore and be different be discussed? ’. My answer to this was simply that we have to use our intuition. Just like working out when we should show our emotions, we also have to work out when to show our sexual desires and sexuality levels....read more
Thursday 2nd July, 2009
What's wrong with Hanging Out?
I have many unsatisfied, married friends. Just as I was once. They often admit to coveting my single existence and the ‘fun’ I get up to. It probably doesn’t help that they get to read all about it here! I have to be honest here and say that in the immediate aftermath of my separation I did point out to them how wonderful it was. To no longer have to come home to someone that irritated me... read more
Friday 8th May, 2009
Will That Turn Me Gay?
This, as far as I can see, has to be one of the most ridiculous questions that I get asked, and I get asked it frequently, if not always in those words. It usually comes up regarding prostate stimulation for men during masturbation or intercourse. This is a subject that I am quite passionate about for many reasons. Read entire article
Wednesday 6th May 2009
Size. Does it Really Count?
Well, now here is one that we have all discussed, with varying degrees of gusto. This is a subject that I have found has two very distinctive camps. The yes camp and the not really, as long as it’s not small, camp. I have friends who are adamant that bigger is better -every time, no doubt at all. This is not to say that they are not satisfied by those who fit into the average arena, but if given a choice it would be big, big, big. Read entire article
Wednesday 8th April, 2009
Selfish Sex for Pepper
In this world there are the givers and the takers. You know the ones. The people who come to visit you in your home, with you being the one to offer your hospitality, then they expect to be waited on hand and foot never once offering to help out or even wash up a cup or glass.The people who, in sporting groups and community organisations ,will never raise a hand to volunteer relying on the usual few to do all the hard work for the good of many. Read More.....
Monday 6th April, 2009
Cybersex - the Safe Option on the Rebound
We have all had a relationship end, apart from my friend Leigh whose high school sweetheart is still her husband after five children, they are my inspiration! Anyway, the rest of us, (less successful relationship wise), have experienced the sadness and pain of a break-up. We have experienced the torment of realizing at some stage that something does not feel right and is not going to work out long term, and for most of us there is the sorrow and loss that fills our hearts as we set ourselves free Read More.....
Saturday 28th March, 2009
The Voice
Trust your gut -always! A statement made by many but what does it truly mean? Whilst in conversation with someone on their spiritual journey a few weeks ago, they told me that trusting a gut ‘feeling’ was a ridiculous way of running one’s life. This showed me that we all hear that voice differently and our beliefs in where it comes from can be worlds apart. For me it, it is like this. Read more.....
Wednesday 25th March, 2009
AGE - a Help, a Hindrance, or Irrelevant?
Have been seeing a guy seven years my junior for a while I have come to ponder the age question somewhat. Having initially thought that the age gap would pose a problem I then realised that it maybe life experience that creates cracks and crevices not the amount of years that your experiences have spanned. We came together from very different lifestyles and with very different lives behind us. In many ways, when I look at my peers, I have lived my life back to front. Read more.....
Tuesday 3rd March, 2009
Love Boat
Valentines Day – doesn’t rock my boat. However, this year I decided to do something about this romantic void and get proactive. I entered a competition on the website of an internet dating agency called meetme.com.au and found myself short listed for the mix 106.5 loveboat with Sonia Kruger and Todd McKenny. Read more.....
Tuesday 17th February, 2009
Internet Dating is now Mobilised
Having experienced the good and bad of internet dating sites I have come to consider myself somewhat of a minor expert on the subject. Always ready with helpful advice for single friends on how to sign up, what to put in a profile and how to weed through the barrage of invitations. But guess what now dating is via the mobile phone. Read more....
Monday 19th January, 2009
The Good, The Bad and none of them Ugly
I am a lover of public transport. When you frequent the system as often as I do, the old adage that you can wait ages for a bus and then 3 come at once is very true. This, it would seem, is also the way of internet dating sites. Read more....
Monday 5th January, 2009
Quality not Quantity
This, my dear friends, is Pepper's New Year resolution! Short and sweet but to be adhered to without exception this coming year.After a year of searching, joining in, putting it out there and one or two close encounters, I have decided that it is time to cull the numbers and up the ante! Read how...
Friday 28th November, 2008
Unrealistic - For Safety's Sake?
I am wondering if some of us are putting up unrealistic goals, in terms of the person we want to meet. Or have we just been told so many times that we deserve the best, that we now can't see the tree for the forest? That never ending search for the near perfect partner maybe just that because we are managing to find faults where really there is just individuality. Read More....
Monday 24th November, 2008
Sounds like L-O-V-E to me
I am going to take you back to the one time in the last 2 years that I have actually found myself having feelings for someone. You all know by now my happy go lucky nature and how I have embraced wholly the single lifestyle that I eventually found after 11 years of marriage. The man in question took me by surprise and after two prolonged meetings we went our separate ways due to the multitude of complications. Read More...
Monday 3rd November, 2008
Date Rape
Many of us know of a friend of a friend that has had their drink spiked and been seriously ill afterwards. I am eternally grateful that I do not know of anyone that has had a worse situation than that. I myself managed to take my eye off the ball long enough to be taken in. Read more
Wednesday 22nd October, 2008
Strictly for Research Purposes
I recently travelled to the Garden State to investigate the phenomenon that is known as 'Saints and Sinners'. Established 18 years ago, this quarterly adult party has to be one of the largest in Australia. With an attendance of around 1100 people (couples and single females only) it certainly is a spectacle to behold. Voyeurs.... read more
Tuesday 14th October, 2008
To love so much - it hurts
This was a statement that, pre-childbirth, always had me puzzled. How can you love so much it hurts? Obviously love can hurt you, at it's ending or just not being, it is at times agonising. But surely to be in the euphoria of such a happy emotion as love would put you so high that pain was unable to reach you. Read more......
Monday 8th September, 2008
I kissed a girl ( and I liked it)
The lyric of this song seems to be causing drama in some suburban homes. Whilst at a friend’s place for coffee the subject of this little ditty came up and I was quite astonished to find that this mother of 5 took offense to the song and was worried about the effect it may have on her daughters. Read More......
Thursday 4th September 2008
Long Distance Love –Realistic or Relationship Suicide?
We meet someone and they are so wonderful that the thousands of kilometers between you seem to fade and become inconsequential, to begin with. Reality soon kicks in and you realize that whilst when you’re together the feeling is wonderful, euphoric and exciting , once you are apart (usually for more time than you are together) the feeling becomes loneliness and longing. Read more...
Thursday 21st August, 2008
Monogamy
Love, trust and Monogamy – do they have to go hand in hand? There are so many ways to live your life now and more social understanding is evolving all the time. However, are we still being judged primarily on what we do behind our front doors, or the doors of others? Read More
Friday 8th August, 2008
Ladies and Gentlemen . . . We have a Winner!
Basically though, if a person says that they are not interested in a relationship with you, this will probably also mean they don’t wish to have you masturbate next to them either. Read More
Wednesday 15th July, 2008
Warning! Gay Men are Bad for Your Health
I generally either meet my straight friends for dinner, or just after that time to start a night out, but in the gay community 11pm stands for early evening. So this was the time that I met up with my ‘Dodgy’ (a term of endearment) companion. We met at a club that two other friends worked at. A good plan I thought, 3 birds with one stone. This was the part that became my ultimate downfall. Read More...
Thursday 26th June 2008
Someone Should Tell Us
I’d like to start by saying what a cruel, cruel world we live in. You go along perfectly happy, loving life, enjoy the age that you are, knowing yourself inside out and then….thump! It hits you in the face like a steam train. You got older, and nobody thought to tell you. Read more..
Friday 16th May 2008
Baggy Pants as in Droopy Drawers
I am sitting here at my PC which is at my kitchen window where I can watch the world strut by, especially the hot surfers. I find myself wondering, not for the first time, to whom are baggy pants appealing? Read More ....
Saturday 10th May 2008
All Men Are Bastards!
OK.OK. It’s a rather sweeping statement. I realize they are not all bad. My Dad for instance, is one of the most amazingly kind, honest and reliable men on the planet. And Jon Bon Jovi, he is God after all, is a dedicated family man despite all that goes on around him. Read More ....
Wednesday 30th April 2008
Friends With Benefits
Being single can be lonely from time to time. In between dating opportunities and friends weddings, there can be dry spells. As much as we all love our intimate accessories and derive much pleasure from them, we need that physical interaction from time to time even if it comes without an emotional attachment.
Usually both parties are in a similar situation. No ties, no relationship and readily available for use of the other. No strings, no emotions, just sex. In general very good sex. The holding of hair, pushing the boundaries, all over the house type sex.
Tuesday April 2nd 2008
Going back for a second helping
Learning from our mistakes is part of growing up. It is how we mature. How we become a responsible adult.
In finding our path we take from the many plates offered, and soon realise what works, what feels good, what we want and what we don’t.So, is it ever a good idea to revisit previously discarded paths, or previously discarded relationships? Surely the answer is NO! read more
Sunday March 24th 2008
The Perfect Man - on Paper at Least
In this circumstance it was not possible. So patience prevailed as the chats and emails were exciting, heart stirring and heading in the direction of, “Oh yes, this is it.”
Then we met and it wasn’t there! The chemistry. The spark. It simply wasn’t there. HOW? Read More...
Wednesday 6th February 2008
Sex Education
Explaining how a baby is made is obviously an important part of sexual education, but this is not what adolescents are interested in, nor what they are actually setting out to achieve. Should they have a baby, it is merely the unfortunate outcome of a sexual rendezvous. Read More
Friday 4th January, 2008
Money, Money, Money
Are we sabotaging our emotional happiness and our sexual fulfillment because of what we have been told we should have?
I have lost count of the times I have been advised since my separation, by acquaintances, friends and family members, that ‘you can love a rich man as well as you can love a poor one’. And that ‘it would be nice to get one with money this time’. Read more....
Monday 10th December 2007
How Many is Too Many?
Maybe we are all trying to justify our own number of conquests by comparing it with those of others. Does this mean that we judge people on the amount of partners that they have had? Worse still, are we judging ourselves on the number of different sexual partners as well? Read More...
Wednesday 3rd October 2007
Worst Sex EVER!
We have all had some forgettable sexual encounters….but do you remember the worst one you ever had? I’m sure you do. These awful experiences stay with us for ever. Like a poignant reminder of what to never put up with again! Read More...
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Is It All In The Bed?
Well I have covered some topics in my recent, rampant ramblings, but this one is a real left fielder! Beds. Does the bed that you have sex in depict the sex you will have? Not necessarily the quality, this is usually dependant on other factors…..knowledge, interest level, self centeredness. But does the type of bed have any bearing on the type of sexual encounter? Read more
Monday, August 6, 2007
When is Lust really LOVE?
Not one for matters of the heart usually, I was recently taken by surprise. I am always a happy one night stander, and have always had the masculine capacity to separate sexual escapades from anything emotional…..and yet I was completely laid flat (literally and subjectively) Read more
Monday, June 25, 2007
Let's talk Taboo's
There seem to be several, maybe many, sexual acts that are still considered unmentionable by the wider society. These practices are well used. Being in the industry you come to know these things, and yet even the people who participate remain quiet .... Read More
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
A long time between sexual encounters - or is it?
I am feeling the effects of a sexual drought, after what is now 4 weeks without intimate human contact. Is this a normal reaction I am asking myself or should I really be happier with my pleasure drawer and not dwell on the physical contact? Obviously I am well educated in the self pleasuring aspects of life….. and have all the tools I need for this, but they are no replacement…. that is for sure. Read more....
Friday, May 18, 2007
I am not 'looking' - I am living
I am getting a little tired of everyone I speak to, friends, relatives, complete and utter strangers, asking me if I have 'found anyone yet'! I didn't know that I was supposed to be looking. It's as if they are convinced that I have no chance at being happy unless I am one part of a two piece set. Well HELLOOOOO! I am whole. Complete. And what's more I am very happy. Why is this so hard for people to believe. Read more....
Friday, May 11,2007
The Mile High Club - Sex on a Plane
Tell me why do people feel the need to have sex on planes? This I find puzzling. Certainly that pokey toilet couldn't offer that much heightened excitement? Not when you would have to be a contortionist to first, arrange your clothing in a manner so that your partner in aviation crime can access Read more
Monday, April 30, 2007
Noisy sex - more noise boys
Pepper Goldsmith
It has come to light during a recent escapade that there is a silence falling upon our men folk. This is most disheartening. We, as women, have spent all these years getting in touch with our inner goddesses. Learning how to let them out through the medium of sound during our sexual encounters. Channeling our inner, raw, desires outward via our vocal chords read more...
Saturday, April 21,2007
Cybersex - it is free & fun
Pepper Goldsmith
We can get everything now, as and when we want it, ordered on the internet and delivered straight to our door. Groceries, clothing, household items, intimate accessories, almost anything you can think of, including now it would seem, relationships and sex. We don’t even have to be in the same room to experience intimacy any more. Read more....
Thursday, April 12,2007
Listen Up Men! Shavers - Shaving - Your Choice
Pepper Goldsmith
Referring back to an article from this website about grooming and shaving of the pubic area, I realized that this was mainly aimed at the women out there. Well, I am here to say…… no, demand, that this subject be brought to the attention of the male public. I for one, have had enough of this double standard. Read more.....
Wednesday, March 28,2007
Trim Taut Terrific & Young
Pepper Goldsmith
26! Yeah! We all jumped in sheer delight when one of my girlfriends revealed the age of the previous nights conquest. As she is close to turning 39 we were all suitably impressed. I, so far, have managed 11 yrs my junior, no I won’t tell you his age, haha.
It seems to be ‘the thing’ right now. For many reasons, as far as I can make out. Read more....
Friday, March 16, 2007
Dating Scene
Pepper Goldsmith
Well my launch back into the dating scene was less than amazing. Had to start somewhere. A house party, a friend of a single friend. When all your friends are still married finding a house full of singles is like finding the pot at the end of the rainbow! Having never been shy I picked out my ‘end of marriage sex therapy partner’ quickly and made lingering eye contact. This went on for a while. We then rendezvoused on the dance floor and found that our mouths and bodies locked together very nicely. Read more...
Monday, March 5, 2007
and YES I use CONDOMS always
Pepper Goldsmith
Well, 11 years of marriage and I’m suddenly back out there. Out with all the single people. The fun people, The, what seem to be, sex crazy people. Everyone is ‘at it’. Not only that, they are doing it everywhere and every way you can think of. Along with quite a few ways you probably didn’t. Am I shocked? Read more...
Tuesday, January 31,2007
Virtual Dating
Dodge Taylor
With the introduction of the World Wide Web, dating (and ultimately finding that special someone to settle down, or at least shack up with on a cold and lonely night) has become a fun and semi-anonymous way to test a potential suitor to see if he or she has the goods to get the job done..... - Read More
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Those Office Christmas Parties!
Dodge Taylor
Inhibitions are out the window, work place etiquette is thrown to the way
side and libido’s are out of control… - Read More
Monday, November 26, 2006
Alternative Intercourse
Dodge Taylor
On a recent binge of the “Tequila Kind” in one of my favourite haunts where the music is always pumping and the dance floor is, well… normally crawling with seedy womanisers, I had the pleasure of meeting the most down to earth guy, who based his sexual prowess on being a self proclaimed virgin. - Read More
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Rusty Trombone
Dodge Taylor
"Our society is one of extreme sexual diversity. Prudes still like to remain secretive about their sometimes wild sexual appetites, while exhibitionists will still lose their jocks at the drop of a hat." - Read More
Stay tuned for more from Dodge Taylor & Pepper Goldsmith in the coming weeks!
