Money, Money, Money

Are we sabotaging our emotional happiness and our sexual fulfillment because of what we have been told we should have?

I have lost count of the times I have been advised since my separation, by acquaintances, friends and family members, that ‘you can love a rich man as well as you can love a poor one’. And that ‘it would be nice to get one with money this time’.

No-one has said to me, make sure you are really in love next time round, strive for amazing sexual connection, wait for that all consuming, deep engaging love.

I wonder why that is. Are they so dissatisfied with their own financial situation that they wish me more than they have? Yes, I think that sentiment is there. But does that also mean that they have lost faith in true love, life long love. Have they decided that love like that does not last so I should make sure the money does?

I am supporting myself and my family. I pay my rent, I have a car that I pay for, my bills are paid, my children are happy. I have a life that is wonderful, and my own. I do not wake every morning and think of ways to find a man with money. I hope one day to cross paths with a man who I can spiritually connect with, laugh with, cry with, have the most amazing, deeply sensual, sexual experiences with. But his financial status is never high on my list of needed attributes.
Would ridiculous amounts of money ever make up for a love lacking relationship?
Could it enhance a relationship…..yes, I am not naive enough to think life couldn’t be made a little easier or more doors opened…..but if this is at the expense of a happy, strong relationship, then I would rather stick with the tiny unit and the old bomb. At least I am always smiling.

I have a friend that has taken the status ideal so far that now I fail to recognize her. No-one is worth looking at (apparently) unless their watch is a certain make and you can see which silver symbol adorns their car keys. That is just to decide whether you accept a drink. Her wedding is planned in her mind, and the baby almost conceived…..but only if the funds are available for a nanny and she can be part of the lunching set. We (those of us who are less socially ambitious) see little of this friend anymore as we are not moving in the correct circles or frequenting the most stylish of establishments.
My opinion is she is missing the fun, the girl chats we have, the sisterhood we have created….all for the search for money.

Money is not the root of all evil, some wonderful things can be achieved with money, but the love, sentiment and desire has to be there first before the money can do anything.

Get happy, deeply happy… the rest will either follow or become inconsequential.

Pepper Goldsmith.