Monogamy

Love, Trust and Monogamy – do they have to go hand in hand?

In our ever changing and growing society, have our views changed on what a committed relationship is? There are so many ways to live your life now and social understanding is evolving all the time.
However, are we still being judged primarily on what we do behind our front doors, or the doors of others?

A traditional ‘marriage’ of two people in a monogamous relationship, sharing themselves only with their partner is still very popular – in theory. With an ever rising divorce rate, (and from my experience) an ever rising infidelity rate, are we really living our lives the way we want to?

Human nature spurs us to strive for love from others and to aspire to love in return. Why then are so many people in relationships where they give and receive love yet covertly search for other fulfillment outside of the unity?

Obviously much infidelity is born from loveless relationships, which always begs the question…’Why stay’?
But there is another group of people entirely, that love their partners but secretly seek something from the outside that is maybe lacking inside or seems more exciting 'out there'.

This is where it ceases to make sense to me.

If you are able to have intimate interactions with others without becoming emotionally involved,  then where is the threat to the bond between a couple if either one, or both of you, separately or together, explore avenues to fill whatever void, or fantasy you are searching for.

If you love and trust do you need monogamy?

You need honesty, without doubt. But to me, personally, someone’s emotional commitment is far more important and completing than their physical exclusivity.

Love, trust and honesty is the foundation and from there you can both experience all that you desire.

I do not believe in ownership of another person, nor do I wish to be owned. I believe deep discussion and profound understanding between both parties, always taking into consideration wants and expectations is a fundamental foundation for the success of this type of relationship.

It is usually not the sexual act that breaks a relationship but the level of emotion invested in it and the lack of honesty shown.
Remember that in every relationship, of every kind, to communicate is imperative.

Balance is the sassy vibe here.

Pepper Goldsmith